I am a cheap person.
I hate admitting it like that because it sounds so much better if you label it “frugal” but really what is the difference? Being “cheap” just means you factor in money when making a decision and weigh whether or not you want that item/experience as much as you do the money.
Because I am a cheap person it pains me (really, it is almost physically painful) to spend a bunch of money on something, especially a material item. But I have learned over the last few years that saving a buck or two by buying a cheaper option or overspending on something because it looks cool can come back to bite you. When I was younger I bought things that I needed based almost exclusively on the price. If I was getting food, clothing or anything else the price tag was something I paid heavy attention to. While I still am very aware of the price of things I buy it is no longer the only driver.
We all have some bad spending habits. This just comes with the fact that you have money + stores have items = sometimes we will slip up. But if you can focus your spending money on larger items and things that are important to you, you can afford almost anything you want. But you can never afford everything you want. I love sports, I played basketball, baseball and football throughout my childhood and high school and then played football at the collegiate level for a couple of seasons. Sports can be expensive if you try to keep up with all the gear and equipment that is being advertised to you. When playing basketball recently I noticed that my shoes have lost all grip and do not seem to support my ankles anymore. Yesterday I decided it was time to get a new pair and headed to the mall (I do not like malls but that is the closest place to buy shoes). I tried on a few different pair of shoes, one pair cost $89, one cost $99 and the third cost $139. I had not asked for the $139 pair but the salesman brought them out anyways, I tried them on first and they were awesome. I then tried on the 89 and 99 dollar pair and they felt the same so I ruled out the $99 pair. Why pay the extra $10 for no added comfort/support? My decision was now between a $89 and a $139 pair, the more expensive pair was obviously nicer and provided superior comfort and support. I did not want to spend the extra money but I knew that the cheaper pair simply was not as nice as the $139 pair and they would not offer me the same performance or last as long. I splurged and paid nearly $150 for a pair of basketball shoes.
While spending $150 on a pair of shoes is not behavior that you would expect from a self proclaimed “cheap person” it was necessary to obtain the best quality for an activity that I love doing. The last time I bought a pair of basketball shoes I bought was about 5 years ago and I think I paid $65 for them. Because I went so long without buying a new pair I do not feel bad about spending so much money. I plan to use these new shoes for the next 5 years and I they can keep me from rolling my ankles or getting hurt in some way then they are more then worth it.
By eliminating spending on small items like $3 for gas station food here, or $24 for a T shirt that you think is funny the first time you see it but then never wear it again you can save money for items you love. I buy expensive camping and fishing gear but typically once I buy it I will never have to do it again because that gear will last me forever. REI even has a lifetime warranty on anything you buy there and you can take it back no matter the condition if it is broken!
I grew up in a lower income home and my parents were forced to buy items that were cheaper and of less quality at times. It always seemed that our washer or dryer or something along those lines was broken and they would have to replace it. If they would have gotten a more expensive dryer (not really an option while raising 5 children) then maybe it would have saved them money in the long run. Like I said, in this example my parents had no choice when buying items because of the size of our family and the mouths to feed constantly. However since you are young and probably only looking after yourself I strongly recommend cutting back spending on small items and saving that money for quality items that will last.
You work hard for your money and you should get the best value for it, most of the time that is buying the item of the highest quality.